Lisa Appleton Sex Doctor: 'I called out ex’s name when having sex with hubby'

The lovely Lisa Appleton is back sharing her pearls of wisdom to Daily Star Online readers in her weekly sex doctor column.

Last week, the Big Brother beauty gave advice to a woman whose boyfriend refused to perform oral sex on her, but expected her to perform it on him.

Lisa told the woman she should tell her man to “get over it,” as he was being “selfish”.

This week, Lisa is advising a woman who can’t get her ex out of her head when she’s having sex with her husband.

Lisa Appleton helps Daily Star Online readers with their nookie nightmares

‘Called out ex’s name when having sex with hubby’

Dear Lisa,

I’ve been married to my hubby for two years, and we dated for three years before that. I love him to bits and we have a great time together and I know he’s a good choice for a life partner as he’s incredibly good to me. But there’s one thing missing, he just can’t satisfy me like my ex could.

My ex and I met at uni and I knew he was trouble from the start, he partied too hard and he was definitely a bit of a womaniser. We dated for a year and the physical aspect of our relationship was out of this world. It completely blew my mind.

I called things off as I just realised he wasn’t forever material. But on/off for the next seven years, we met up every now and then to have wild nights of passion but that all stopped when I met my husband.

But while the sex was fun at the beginning as it was something new, it just became really vanilla, as it was nowhere near as exciting as it was my ex. But I married him as I do love him.

However, recently I’ve been thinking about my ex when we’ve been having sex, which I feel terrible about, and a week ago I accidentally said his name when we were having sex. It’s been incredibly awkward between my husband and I ever since. And I feel awful. But I just can’t get my ex out of my head. What do I do Lisa? Anonymous

Lisa says:

You’re not on your own, there are many people who go through this situation where you’re at uni, you meet your first boyfriend and you know, it’s always fun and exciting and you really think this is the one and it’s gonna be for life.

But basically really deep down they don’t satisfy you and they never fulfil what you’re really looked which is feeling loved and having a man who is really going to do things for you – whether it’s DIY, or he supports you – he’s your fortress, he’s your castle and he makes to lvoe you.

And you might be clinging onto the past, but your subconscious mind plays tricks on you. Whoever met their significant others as high school sweethearts, awesome, that’s a miracle, but a lot of us, we go through that process and that first person who really hooked you in, is always going to be someone that you possibly think about but it’s all in your subconscious mind.

But what you’ve really got to think about here is, why did he satisfy you? Because deep down he probably really hurt you.

You know, he’s a womaniser, he’s sleeping around and you know you’ve met your husband who’s supporting you and is solid in your life and you’re thinking you’re getting a bit bored with your husband well maybe you need to have a reality check as that could upset your husband, I mean, I don’t know how he’s feeling about you calling out your husband’s name. He probably feels awkward.

But if you just chat to your husband, you’ve both had previous partners in your life and it’s something you didn’t mean and it’s quite common – you’d be surprised. People can sometimes get distracted and live in the past.

But don’t live in the past, live in the present. And even though it’s not funny, try and have a laugh about it with your husband.

Stick to the present, darling.

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Source: Celebrities - dailystar.co.uk