Michaela Boehm is a sex guru to some of the biggest stars in Hollywood, like Gwyneth Paltrow and Will Smith, but her advice can be taken by any old Joe Bloggs too.
The 52-year-old intimacy and relationship expert has been dealing with the dulling bedroom passion of her clients for the past two decades, so knows her stuff.
The Austrian teaches people to tackle adversity head on but more recently hit headlines with her recommendation of spending time apart.
And while it may sound like her help would be completely out of anyone’s budget, she offers classes in London, Amsterdam, Melbourne, Sydney, New York and LA for just £35 per person.
Michaela says that good sex all starts with being connected to both yourself and your partner, physically and emotionally.
Michaela has given advice to celebrities such as Gwyneth Paltrow (Image: Getty Images)
So it’s time to put down your phone, turn off the TV and spend time together without any sort of technological interruption.
Go for a walk and hold hands, have a cup of tea together, anything involving just the two of you and no distractions.
If the passion is dying, try something new. Don’t spark the sex session after a tiff about the fridge smelling or who has to take the bins out.
Try a new hobby, go to a new restaurant, or just simply talk about something new to get your spark back.
Some people are tactile, others aren’t, but Michaela recommends being conscious of your touch and limit it – even avoiding touching each other for a whole day.
Michaela Boehm has been dishing out sex tips to celebs and normal people for decades (Image: Getty Images)
Then, when you slip into bed together and touch for the first time after restricting yourselves, watch how the passion flows.
Of course, Michaela says not to do this all the time though – get handsy when you want to.
The celebrity sexpert encourages clients to compliment their partners to bring positivity back to a relationship, which is a very simple way to get pulses racing.
She also recommends pushing the boat out and trying adding something new to your repertoire, like buying a book about sex or checking out guides on sex toy sites.
Mind-blowing sex doesn’t come naturally to everyone – it’s a skill that needs to be learned, she says.
Sadly, Michaela doesn’t have a quick fix for the old excuse of being “too tired” – you just need to make time it.
Will Smith has also been one of Michaela’s clients (Image: FilmMagic)
Use an alarm clock if you need to, just make sure you’re not bumbling around tiring yourself out with monotonous day-to-day duties.
If you don’t feel sexy enough to do the deed, do something about it.
Go to bed earlier to get more sleep, do some regular exercise – even something as simple as going for a walk – just something to make yourself feel sexual and desirable.
Michaela says you need to connect your mind and body too, so recommends trying to create pleasant sensations throughout the day.
This could be something like buying yourself a luxury hand cream to use regularly, having flowers at your desk or wearing something that feels good on your skin.
It’s time to get the passion flowing in the bedroom again (Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)
And if sex is painful for you, try something that doesn’t involve full intercourse.
There are plenty of other ways that you and your partner can make each other feel good – touching, kissing, even holding hands.
If you are disabled or have other physical challenges, get to know a different way of being intimate.
And – don’t forget – get those unrealistic expectations you’ve seen in porn or scenes of low-lit romantic intimacy in films out of your head.
Source: Celebrities - dailystar.co.uk
