Lisa Appleton is back to help with Daily Star Online readers sex problems to ensure they don’t have hanky-panky horrors or nookie nightmares.
Last week, she was helping a man whose wife wanting to begin dogging again despite the risk of catching coronavirus.
Lisa praised the man for putting safety first and advised they spice up their sex lives in other ways such as by having outdoor sex.
This week, she is helping a woman whose boyfriend won’t perform oral sex on her, despite wanting her to perform it on him.
Lisa Appleton helps Daily Star Online readers with their nookie nightmares
‘Boyfriend expects oral sex but he doesn’t reciprocate’
Dear Lisa,
My boyfriend and I have been together for six months, and everything is great but we are lacking somewhat in the bedroom department.
Despite him being super generous and giving when it comes to dates and taking me out, the same doesn’t apply to our sex life.
He refuses to perform oral sex on me and it’s something I’ve always very much been in to. He simply says it’s ‘not his thing’ but it’s really starting to annoy me, especially as I know he really likes receiving oral sex and I’m more than happy to oblige.
I don’t want us to split up, but it’s getting to the point where I’m starting to question whether his selfish behaviour in the bedroom means he’s not the person for me.
I really don’t want us to split up, as for the most part, he treats me really well, but I can’t see myself being with someone forever who is this selfish in the bedroom.
What should I do?
Thanks,
Anonymous
Lisa says:
He’s being selfish in wanting to do what feels good for him, but not wanting to please you.
He needs kicking up the a*se. Give him a good boot if he doesn’t reciprocate. It is selfish.
You’ve got some good points in the relationship as you said and you’re happy together and the sex is good. But it’s one rule for one and one rule for another in terms of oral sex.
And that is god damn selfish.
If he really loves you, he should be trying to please you, it doesn’t have to be every single time and it might be every now and then.
But the fact that he won’t do it at all, but he likes you doing it all the time is selfish.
So, he really does need a kick up the backside and he probably won’t like that, but sometimes, when the relationship’s great and the sex is great, you can put up with different bits and bobs but there are certain boundaries.
Lisa Appleton talks sex and relationships
If you started to say no to doing it to him, as he won’t. do it to you, how would that make him feel? He needs a wake up call.
You’ve got to be a bit more assertive with him, tell him to get down there!
There are so many different ways you can approach it, but just chat and talk and when you’re in a romantic mood just say to him I’d love you to pleasure me in that way.
But if he doesn’t respond well to it, you need to think about how long realistically you can put up with it.
So it needs to be addressed.
Just do it softly and diplomatically. I wish you luck with it.
Lisa Appleton returns next week to solve more Daily Star Online readers’ sexual conundrums
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