Lisa Appleton is back offering her pearls of wisdom to ensure Daily Star Online readers’ sex lives and relationships continue to flourish.
Lisa’s last column saw her give advice to a man whose girlfriend wanted to introduce sex toys to the bedroom, but instead of being onboard, he was considerably freaked-out.
The Big Brother beauty told him to communicate with his girlfriend and say that it made him uncomfortable, but to maybe try it out every now and then so that both he and his girlfriend were getting what they wanted out of their sex lives.
This week, Lisa is helping a man who has been sleeping with his longtime friend – but, she’s getting married!
Lisa Appleton helps Daily Star Online readers with their nookie nightmares
‘I’ve been sleeping with my friend – but she’s getting married’
Dear Lisa,
My friend and I first met 10 years at university during Freshers’ Week in the smoking area at a silent disco.
Instantly, we realised we had so much in common. I also thought she was gorgeous.
But she and I were both in relationships and because we became such good friends we were both scared to ruin the friendship – so we decided to just stay pals.
She and I have remained close friends and have given each other advice with relationships ever since. But eight months ago, she revealed she was engaged to her boyfriend of two years and I was shocked, but I felt absolutely crushed.
I didn’t say anything, but during the months that followed I just continued to feel more gutted.
Plus, despite them having been together for two years, I never really thought it would go anywhere as he’s just not really right for her.
She’s really fun and quirky – which are the traits I love about her – but he seems to try and quieten that side of her as he’s very strait-laced.
Lisa Appleton talks sex and relationships
Two months ago, she cane round to mine crying that they’d been arguing and we sank a couple of bottles of wine.
I’m not sure how it happened – I guess alcohol was flowing and emotions were running high – but we slept together.
We’ve slept together twice since too but not really discussed what it means.
She says she loves him – but I know he’s not the one for her.
They’re getting married in Spring, should I tell her how I feel before it’s too late?
Thanks,
Anonymous.
Lisa says:
Well, you and her have a lot of common, you help each other out with relationship advice, you share these close, intimate conversations and you have a great bond with each other.
That’s what you would normally class as a really good friend, if the sex wasn’t happening.
And although she’s going out with this guy and she’s going to marry him – the fact she is turning to you in this way, does trigger major alarm bells.
It’s a lot of pressure for you.
This isn’t right.
First of all, she’s not thinking right – she’s not.
She can’t be committing to her boyfriend, who you don’t think is right for her anyway, and expect to turn to you and sleep with you.
She’s messing about with your feelings.
I think you should be completely straight with her, she’s all over the place – it’s not healthy.
Just say: ‘Look it’s not right. Yes, I have got feelings for you, we’ve been close for a while, and we never took it any further and now we have – but you’re about to get married.
‘Are you sure you’re doing the right thing?’
If she says ‘yes’ she is doing the right thing, I really think you’re not doing the right thing by carrying on seeing her.
I just think you’ve got to really be quite blunt with this one – because either way it’s a recipe for disaster.
So, just tell her how you’re feeling and that you don’t think it’s right.
I think she’s testing the waters a bit, but I think she’s all over the place and it’s a bit messy.
So just be careful and I wish you all the best with it.
Lisa Appleton returns next weekend to help solve more hanky-panky horrors
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