Lisa Appleton is back sharing her pearls of wisdom to Daily Star Online readers, who are getting to grips with their sex lives during lockdown.
This week, she is helping a woman who is looking to experiment by having sex with another female once the coronavirus lockdown is over. However, she doesn’t want to upset her boyfriend.
Lisa Appleton helps Daily Star Online readers with their nookie nightmares
‘Have a loving boyfriend but want to have sex with a female’
Dear Lisa, I (female) have been with my boyfriend for four years now, he’s lovely, makes me laugh, and is much better than some of the frogs I’ve been with in the past – I definitely think he’s my prince.
I also really value how open and honest we are with each other. So much so, that I told him a few weeks ago, that as much as I love him, I’ve always wanted to experiment sexually with another woman.
I don’t want to lose him as a boyfriend, I just really feel like I need to get this out of my system before we take our relationship to the next level i.e. moving in together, getting engaged etc.
My boyfriend said he was happy for me to experiment with a woman if we had a threesome, but wouldn’t be happy with me doing it on my own.
This is something I really do want to try though and feel like this is something I want to do by myself, but in the same respect, I don’t want to upset him.
I know nothing more can be done about it now during the lockdown, but I have a girl in mind, who I know would be up for it once this all lifts.
Am I being selfish for wanting to experiment?
Thanks
Anonymous
Lisa says:
I wouldn’t say you’re selfish because you’re not engaged yet, you’re not living together yet, you’re not married. You’ve not really made that commitment and it’s only natural to feel like you want to experience things before you make that commitment to your partner.
It’s obviously something you really feel passionate about, and you want to get it out of your system, which makes sense, because once you’ve done something, you’ll always remember ‘I’ve done that, I’ve experienced that’, so I can understand it from that point of view.
The fact your boyfriend wants a threesome and you’ve both got this mutual respect and trust is good that you’ve got that, so if you went behind his back with the woman an didn’t tell your boyfriend, you’ve kind of broken that bond. And that could make you feel guilty and you might then end up having to tell him, and you don’t know how he’s going to respond.
So, looking at the bigger picture, the only way to actually solve this is to tell the truth – because the truth sets you free. But the fact your boyfriend wants a threesome and will only sign off on you having sex with another woman if he’s involved, is a little bit controlling, I will add.
It kind of gets a little bit complicated, as your boyfriend will only do it if it’s a threesome but that’s not what you want to get out of your system, you just want to do it if it’s you and another woman.
You want to experience that, and your boyfriend coming into play is obviously going to make it so different and you might not like him with the other woman.
It might cause problems in the future but if you do it behind his back you might feel guilty.
So there are all these things to consider. And you can’t really trust this woman, because say if you do have sex with her to experience it and then years and years later she goes and exposes it and people can stir anyway.
You just don’t know. And this woman might want to see you again, or you might want to see her again and you could become tempted. You really are rolling the dice here – it’s risky.
But I can understand. However, the truth and communication always wins. But if you tell him that you wouldn’t be happy with a threesome and that’s he’s just got to trust you and you want to experience it. You’ve just got to really think about it, as you don’t want to lose a good relationship, as he makes you laugh, and he’s your prince.
Lisa Appleton returns next week to share more tips and tricks
Source: Celebrities - dailystar.co.uk
