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    To Protect Her Parents, She’s Keeping Her Daughter Out of School

    Paula Madrid, a trauma psychologist specializing in resiliency training in the Williamsburg neighborhood of Brooklyn, thought she had mastered the art of working, parenting and tending to her parents. Then came the coronavirus pandemic. She and her husband, Nestor Sulikowski, have had to juggle the needs of their daughter, Chloé, 7, and her parents in New Jersey, especially her ailing father who is vulnerable to the coronavirus. For their sake, Ms. Madrid, who is a Colombian immigrant, has kept Chloé attending school remotely and limited her social interactions. It’s the only way, she says, that all three generations can spend time together safely every few weeks at their second home in the Catskills.

    PAULA Everyone in my family matters the same. So I will do what I have to do to keep everyone safe and healthy. That is the juggling piece of it, how to manage the varying needs of the different generations.

    I am Spanish. I am family-oriented. I think of my parents’ needs as my own. My father is 73 and has lung cancer.

    We have seen my parents for about a week and a half at a time in upstate New York, depending on when my father has to go for his medical exams. Every single time, prior to seeing them, we get tested. This is the new normal.

    This pandemic has called on me to do what I have done best through my life, to multitask, anticipate people’s needs. It’s an opportunity to be resilient and to show Chloé, my little one, how to do it.

    There was an option to return to school in person. She would have done well with the mask. She follows instructions. She gets it. She would have preferred it. For us, it wasn’t an option. If she goes to school, when do we get to see her grandparents? It just complicates matters too much.

    She is daydreaming about friends, having fantasies about the day we can go back to parties in person. She is a fortunate kid. I tell her this is a parenthesis in life.

    In the middle of the night recently, I called Chloé’s friend’s mom and I said, “We can’t see you tomorrow. It’s a risk we can’t take. My parents are with us.” So, the day after, I had a conversation with Chloé. I was tearful, I said I am sorry. I told her that I found myself at a roadblock, do I go right or left? “Going right is to do what would be most fun for you, to get together with your friend and have a pottery lesson. But in the end it could really get us in trouble.

    “Instead, I am choosing to go left: We are still with grandparents in this amazing Catskills forest. We are happy, and everyone is safe. In a week, we can see friends. It’s probably better that we don’t see them today.” She said, “Gosh, I wish there was a way in between.” I said, “You know what, I guess the left side is in between because we are holding off a little. We spend time with the oldies, have fun, do the best we can. In a week or two, we get together with friends.”

    After one of those long stays, she asked my mom, “Grandma, when are you leaving so I can see my friends?” My parents were not supposed to leave for five or six days but she said, “Yeah, we are leaving in two days.” She told me she was leaving so Chloé could see her friends.

    Last weekend, my mom called. She asked, “Why can’t we just come over to you in Brooklyn? I said, ‘Nope, I’m not doing this, Mom. Nope. Chloé just saw her friend.’”

    We will take the test on Saturday, get results on Tuesday, and we will go back to the Catskills to be together. More

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    ‘Fargo’ Season 4, Episode 9 Recap: And a Little Dog, Too

    Season 4, Episode 9: ‘East/West’One of the challenges of serialized television shows, especially plot-heavy thrillers like “Fargo,” is that the demands of moving the various subplots forward can keep individual episodes from having their own distinct flavor. The fourth season has fallen into that mid-season trap a little, sacrificing the thematic purposefulness of the early episodes for a little too much plate-spinning. It needed an audacious, standalone hour like this week’s episode to reassert itself again.The Bertrand Russell quote that opens the episode speaks to the arc of the whole season. “Life is nothing but a competition to be the criminal rather than the victim” is actually a piece of a quote from a letter the philosopher wrote to his lover, Ottoline Morrell. It’s preceded by this line: “People seem good while they are oppressed, but they only wish to become oppressors in their turn.” This has been the show’s understanding of American power from the beginning, as a relentless tribalism in which entire ethnic and racial classes start at the bottom, gain legitimacy and then take it out on next disfavored group.The one sticking point to that cynical thinking, which the show has expressed since the changing-of-the-guard sequences in the season premiere, is that Black people are an exception to the rule. The Irish and the Italians may take that route to broad cultural acceptance, but there’s nothing an exceptionally clever leader like Loy Cannon can do to advance his race from oppressed to oppressor, even if he succeeds in his war against the Faddas. The show is aware of this fact, most plainly in the co-opting of Loy’s credit card idea by white bankers, and yet here’s that Russell quote anyway, preceding an episode that doesn’t have much to do with it. Oh well.That one hiccup aside, the episode is both a conceptual marvel and an example of how big ensemble shows can benefit from focusing on a couple of characters and sending the rest of the cast on vacation. We hadn’t seen Milligan and Satchel since the botched hit job sent them on the lam together, so it was a treat to spend some quality time with them before their fates were literally cast to the wind. “Fargo” has strayed from Coensville all season long, so it makes sense that an escape to rural Kansas would shift to “The Wizard of Oz” as a reference point rather than to the quirky denizens of Minnesota and North Dakota.Shot in black and white, with that startling shift to color after a tornado, the episode follows Milligan and Satchel, who are definitely not in Kansas (City) anymore. The two hole up at the Barton Arms in Liberal, Kan., “the pancake hub of the universe,” for a couple of days so that Milligan can find his bearings and figure out where they should go from there. As Satchel stays in the room, bonding with a stray dog of Toto-like proportions, Milligan heads back into Kansas City to retrieve $5,000 in ill-gotten cash that he had tucked in the walls of a feed shop. Only the feed shop is now a catalog store, and the wall is gone, leading Milligan to conclude that the new proprietors have his money.The episode builds to two crackerjack suspense sequences. The first has Milligan trying to get his money from the catalog store, which is never a situation he doesn’t have entirely in hand. But outside the shop, Satchel faces the much more dangerous prospect of a conflict with a white police officer, who basically eyes him for the crime of Sitting While Black. Milligan gets back in time to defuse the situation, but for Satchel, it underlines an essential difference between him and his “guardian”: They may both be orphans, but in reference to the monologue about the Goldilocks story back at the Barton Arms, Satchel will always be the “outsider in search of himself.” He has no home that could ever be considered safe.The second set-piece is much showier, landing Milligan in the middle of a gunfight between one of Loy’s henchman, Omie Sparkman (Corey Hendrix), and the wraithlike Constant Calamita. Sparkman has set a trap for Calamita at the only filling station for miles around — one that happens to be eight or nine miles away from the Barton Arms — but when Milligan turns up looking for a treat for Satchel’s birthday, he gets roped into a conflict. To this point, only the Kansas setting, the black-and-white photography and the little dog have suggested “The Wizard of Oz,” but it’s enough to justify the tornado that wipes all three characters off the map.The switch from black-and-white to color after the tornado isn’t as revelatory as when Dorothy opens the door to Oz — what could be, really? — but it does mark Satchel’s transition to another world, one where he is truly orphaned, without his real or surrogate father. Perhaps some version of the Scarecrow, the Tin Man or the Lion await him on the lonely highway that stands in for the yellow brick road, but it’s been made perfectly clear to him, outside the catalog store and inside the Barton Arms, that he’s not welcome anywhere. He can’t click his heels three times. In Kansas, there’s no place called home.3 Cent Stamps:Welcome back, Coen references! The Barton Arms is a nod to the Hotel Earle, the purgatorial dump where John Turturro struggles to script a wrestling picture in “Barton Fink.” Touting the pancakes of Liberal, Kan., honors Peter Stormare’s Gaear Grimsrud in “Fargo,” a man who speaks of little but his desire for pancakes. (The Coens and Stormare also call back to the pancakes during his appearance as a nihilist in “The Big Lebowski.”) And it may be a stretch, but the old man strapped to a machine at the Barton Arms sounded a little like the retired TV writer in the iron lung in “Lebowski.” (“He has health problems.”)Back to less expected references, the episode features a straight-faced telling of “Yertle the Turtle,” the classic Dr. Seuss story about the vain turtle king who makes a throne for himself atop a stack of other turtles. On systems of oppression, you get your choice of Bertrand Russell or Dr. Seuss. I choose the latter.Love the scenes with the billboard and its maker, who isn’t in a hurry to finish up lest he be unemployed. Milligan has no idea what “The Future Is Now” is supposed to mean, and it’s especially perplexing because the billboard’s image of white suburbia seems so far removed from the snow-dusted plains of rural Kansas. But Satchel appears to recognize that the future isn’t his, at least not now.Apologies to Milligan, but the finders keepers rule does apply here. When the owners of the catalog store bought the feed shop, they got everything that came with it. “Leaky pipes, bag of money, what have you … that’s the American way.” More

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    ‘The Mandalorian’ Season 2, Episode 3 Recap: Bigger Fish

    Season 2, Episode 3: ‘The Heiress’Last week on “The Mandalorian,” Baby Yoda scarfed down several unfertilized frog-creature eggs, sparking arguments across the internet about whether the kid’s uncontrollable impulse to have a little snack was funny or appalling. Well, this week Baby Yoda — sealed inside his own floating metallic “egg” — gets swallowed whole by a sea monster. Could this be some kind of poetic justice?I don’t want to dive too deep into the ethics or the entertainment value of the Child’s egg-eating in last week’s chapter of “The Mandalorian.” In my review, I called it “hilarious.” I stand by that — although I do understand why some people might find the joke too shocking to enjoy.But it is worth noting that the “Star Wars” universe is filled with species that eat other species. In “The Mandalorian” Season 2 premiere, a Krayt dragon consumed several Tusken Raiders — as well as Mando himself — before getting blown to smithereens and having its own meat distributed among the throng. In this week’s episode, “The Heiress,” our heroes stop at a pub on the watery moon of Trask, where the proprietor serves a chowder (dispensed by what can only be called a soup hose) containing living seafood with flailing tentacles. At one point, one of those beasts leaps out of the bowl and tries to chomp the Child. Later in the episode, the Child slurps down a different one of those squirmy things. So it goes.As we’ve been moving further into the larger story of “The Mandalorian,” it’s becoming clear that the series’s creator and head writer, Jon Favreau, means to explore the moral gray areas of “Star Wars” by setting his saga at a time when the galaxy’s order is very much in flux. It’s hard to discern sometimes who the good guys are in this era. Who’s the predator and who’s the prey?As a case-in-point, consider the new allies the Mandalorian makes this week. After the Child gets gobbled by the leviathan, Din Djarin dives into the water to save him. Just when he’s about to be killed by a gang of squid-headed Quarren — intending, like so many others, to steal his armor — he’s saved by three of his fellow Mandalorians.But there’s a complication. The posse members immediately remove their helmets after the rescue, ignoring what our Mando believes are ancient, inviolable protocols. Moreover, the squad’s leader, Bo-Katan Kryze (Katee Sackhoff), then explains that while she was fighting in the battles to liberate Mandalore, Din’s order, “the Watch,” was arguing against social progress and pushing to reestablish the orthodox religious practices of “the Way.” Is it possible that all this time, our Mando has been the wrong kind of Mandalorian?Hearing there might be more than one Mandalorian Way rattles Din, who rockets off with the Child … only to encounter yet another mob of angry Quarren, necessitating yet another Bo-Katan rescue. Finally, Mando agrees to join forces with her as she and her team attempt to reclaim some stolen Mandalorian weapons from an Imperial freighter, guarded by Stormtroopers.Fervent “Star Wars” fans who’ve watched every movie and TV series — and have maybe also read every novel and comic book and played every video game — should recognize some of the back story and mythology described in this episode. Bo-Katan Kryze herself is a character in the animated series “Star Wars: The Clone Wars” and “Star Wars Rebels.” (In both, she is voiced by Sackhoff). Her quest to acquire the powerful and symbolic weapon the Darksaber — and then to lead her people to independence — is a big part of the franchise’s lore.But it’s not necessary to know any of that to enjoy “The Heiress,” which is just as tied to the already established “Mandalorian” plot. The Darksaber, as you may recall, is currently in the hands of last season’s main villain, Moff Gideon (Giancarlo Esposito), who is still using it for his own nefarious purposes in the parts of the galaxy where the Empire still has some sway. Gideon appears briefly in this episode via hologram, advising the Imperial freighter’s captain (played by the always terrific Titus Welliver) to do whatever he must to keep the Mandalorian raiders from seizing their weapons cache.What follows is another outstanding “Mandalorian” action sequence as Din and Bo-Katan’s team fight off the captain’s crew in narrow corridors — the “Star Wars” set designers do love their narrow corridors — and then try to keep the captain from crashing the freighter, killing them all. In addition to being gripping, the big climactic set-piece is filled with what makes this franchise fun, including lots of moments when the reliably dim Stormtroopers don’t really understand what’s going on.The breathless rush of that final battle is also representative of where our Mandalorian finds himself at this point in the story. He’s always been a very task-oriented bounty hunter, taking one job after another while trying his best to represent the ideals of his order. But while he has been hustling to keep the Child safe, he has also been working alongside whoever can help. Droids, Jedi, rival Mandalorians … Din Djarin has been learning to trust some folks he might previously have considered his enemies. Sometimes ideals have to bend to circumstance.When Mando lands on Trask’s moon at the start of the episode, his craft, the Razor Crest, is sputtering badly, with metal flaking off the hull. When he leaves at the end, the ship has been literally bound together by ropes and wires by the Mon Calamari mechanics he hired. (When Din complains about the staff’s shoddy work, the supervisor just quietly hands him an invoice to sign. That’s another fine bit of “Mandalorian” silent comedy.)As the Mandalorian and the Child rocket into hyperspace, more Razor Crest chunks go flying. That’s because the state of the ship is similar to the state of the galaxy. Everyone is just trying to keep what they have in one piece, however possible, for as long as necessary. Survival first. Moral quandaries later.This Is the Way:This episode was directed by Bryce Dallas Howard, who also directed “Sanctuary,” from Season 1. That’s the one in which Mando and Cara Dune (Gina Carano) fought Imperial Walkers on a muddy forest planet. Both of Howard’s “Mandalorian” episodes so far have balanced thrilling action sequences with quieter character moments. I’ve started to look forward to seeing her name in the credits.While Din Djarin is off adventuring on the high seas with the other Mandalorians, he leaves the Child with the Frog Lady and her husband, which seems like a recipe for disaster … or at least for more outraged tweets from the show’s more sensitive fans. Instead, Baby Yoda minds his manners as Mando had urgently requested (before adding, “You know what I’m talking about”). The Child even seems delighted when one of the now-fertilized eggs hatches into a tadpole creature. Granted, he probably wanted to eat that, too. But he didn’t! That’s progress.The Razor Crest has been fixed — sort of. But what about the Child’s little vehicle? Will we never again see him floating around so adorably in his egg? More

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    Stagehand Falls to His Death at the Winter Garden Theater

    A stagehand died Thursday morning after falling from a ladder on the fly floor above the stage at Broadway’s Winter Garden Theater.The 54-year-old man fell from the narrow, raised platform alongside the stage around 8:45 a.m. while performing routine maintenance, the police said. Emergency medical services workers found the man lying on the floor of the theater, which sits between 50th and 51st Streets, and transported him to Mount Sinai Hospital, where he was pronounced dead.The man was an employee of the Shubert Organization, which operates the Winter Garden Theater, and was not affiliated with “Beetlejuice,” the last show to play there. He has not been identified, pending notification of his family.Like all Broadway theaters, the Winter Garden shut down on March 12 because of the coronavirus pandemic. “Beetlejuice” had been set to end its run on June 6, but announced in April that it would not return. Broadway performances have been suspended through May 30, 2021.Bill Evans, a spokesman for the Shubert Organization, which is the largest landlord on Broadway, said the theater is still in the process of removing “Beetlejuice” props and has not yet begun setting up for its next show, a revival of “The Music Man” that will star Hugh Jackman and Sutton Foster. The Scott Rudin-produced musical is set to begin performances in December 2021 and open in February 2022.Mr. Evans said most stagehands are not working at the organization’s other theaters during the closure. “We mourn the loss of our valued colleague,” he said in a statement. “Our heartfelt condolences go out to the family during this difficult time.” More